Some friends will adapt, though others may pull away because they feel uncomfortable, afraid, or unsure how to talk about the disease.
“Unfortunately, it’s common, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy,” says Williams.
Friends with whom you did certain hobbies, such as playing cards or golf, may fall away. Williams says, “Your golf-playing friend may not want to take a walk or have lunch; they want to play golf.” That can hurt, but try not to take it personally, she says.
If you want to leave the door open, try one low-pressure message: “I’ve missed you lately. I know my news was a lot to take in, and I understand if you need space. I’d still love to have coffee when you’re ready.”
If possible, try to focus your energy on the friends who call, text, visit, adapt plans, and keep treating you like yourself, and try to let go of those who are unable to be there for you right now.
Alzheimer’s disease support groups can’t take the place of old friends, but they can help connect you with other people who can understand without needing a long explanation.
“Finding people who are going through the same thing you’re going through is terribly important for your mental well-being,” says Williams.
